Angel Hamilton has undergone a positive transformational healing due to polyamory. She wants to share it with the world.
Can you stand the thought of your partner having sex with another person while you?re still together? Me neither. But I wish I could. Polyamory ? the practice of having multiple intimate relationships at the same time ? has been a topic of interest recently at Confronting Love.
I don?t think this is by accident. I wonder why this previously taboo subject is being brought up more and explored by people who?d have never thought they would have in the past. I think it?s an indicator of the status of love and relationships today. I think our current model ? the ?one? for the rest of your life ? is showing cracks and that people are looking for alternatives.
I love the idea of polyamory. I love that it makes one ask the big questions like what is love? and what are relationships? I?ve just been too conditioned in my attachment issues to be able to practice it. Who knows. Maybe it?s something I could get past. I would certainly never rule it out.
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Photo: he(art)geek
Angel Hamilton lives in Vancouver, BC. She is filming a documentary about polyamory called Poly Sex Confidential. About the ?positive transformational healing? she has gone through because of polyamory. Included in the film will be a landmark case in British Columbia about the province?s 121-year-old ban on polygamy, and the Vancouver Polyamory Conference that followed the closing of the case.
To help with funding for the film she has created a fundraising campaign at indiegogo.com. She?s trying to raise $1000 to rent an editing lab and a camera from a film co-operative society. She took some time to answer a few questions I had for her about polyamory and the documentary.
CL: Have you always believed in polyamory? Or was there a time when your views on monogamous relationships changed?
Angel: I have always felt an attraction to polyamory because of my Mom?s lifestyle with multiple partners and never being married. However, I tried the monogamous relationship for a while and found out that it was not for me. I discovered the prehistory of sexuality from archaeology classes while attending Trent U and wondered about alternatives.
On your fundraising website, you mention you studied the Archaeology of Sexuality. What, exactly, is that?
The study of prehistoric sexuality has become more popular with the book Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
So basically I looked at the multifaceted spectrum of sexual arrangements that existed prior to modern Victorian times.
So basically I looked at the multifaceted spectrum of sexual arrangements that existed prior to modern Victorian times. It was a paper that addressed the need to look at the archaeological record with a holistic outlook that allowed for multiplicity of sexual identities using fractals as a new heuristic device to re-examine and critically think about the past interpretations of sexual identity and relationship.
You also reference ?Ethical Sluts? and how your film will help support them in their right to a polyamorous lifestyle. Your use of the word slut, is it done in good humour? Or is this an actual term in the world of polyamory?
I have read and interviewed both Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton from The Ethical Slut book and was deeply inspired by their words and life. I agree with the authors that the word slut needs to be taken back and used in a more positive way that is empowering rather than degrading and used as a way to control, fearfully, people?s sexuality.
It?s very important to understand that society finds ways to uphold the norms of a society that values marriage over polygamy and there needs to be a re-evaluation of people?s perceptions of polygamy and polyamory. This book is instrumental in regards to that.
Do you think polyamorous relationships will increase as we move ahead? It definitely seems clear that our idea of relationships and marriage today is outdated, what with the high divorce rate and unhappy couples.
Photo: DrJohnBullas
I do think that polyamorous relationships ? as characterized by non-exclusivity ? will increase as education and awareness increases about the movement. There is a high divorce rate and people are looking for alternatives. Perhaps relationships that are rooted in a mutual understanding of the love of many will allow for more flexibility and honesty. At least that is my intention in my relationships.
You obviously feel very strongly about the subject (strong enough to create a documentary). What are you hoping to accomplish with this film?
I hope to accomplish a massive education social justice awareness campaign surrounding the polyamory movement and draw attention to the polygamy/polyamory reference case that took place in Vancouver, BC at the BC Supreme Court. It concerned the criminal code and the laws prohibiting polygamy and thus, perhaps, polyamory as well.
I hope to give some insight into how polyamory is a social movement that is growing in popularity and strength everyday that could be instrumental in the transformation of our current society through my own personal journey.
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If you?d like to help Angel raise the funds, please visit her campaign at indiegogo. Fundraising ends July 31, 2011. 
[Feature photo: Serolynne]
About the author
Carlo Alcos
Carlo is the editor of Brave New Traveler and keeps a personal blog at Vagabonderz. The end of his marriage in 2010 started him on a new life journey so, yes, he has much to say on the subject of love and relationships. He currently calls Nelson, BC his home, where his yoga and meditation practice go a long way in keeping him sane. Follow him on Twitter.
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